
I treated Michael Jackson. When I was an intern in a chiropractic/naturopathic clinic in Eagle Rock California in the 70’s, Michael Jackson’s mother brought him in for treatment. As I recall he was fourteen at the time. At that time I believe he was known as a member of the Jackson Five and it was before he went out on his own. What struck me about this boy was how incredibly shy he seemed to be. Whenever I say to people I was shy as a child I am looked at in total disbelief. They seem to find it hard to believe that I was ever shy. Interestingly enough, it remains even today. This is the part of me however that related to Michael Jackson. I immediately experienced empathy for him that I did not understand until years later.
Through much of my life I’ve known what it was like to feel alienated and alone even though surrounded by people. To me that seemed to epitomize Michael Jackson’s life. I did not really follow his career (check out the links below for more information about him), I just occasionally paid attention to him when one of his many hits grabbed my interest. I was particularly intrigued with “Thriller” and used it many times in Halloween productions over the years. My intention here is only to reflect on my observations of a boy that never really seemed to leave his childhood. He had the ability (because of his extreme and unusual circumstances brought about by fame and wealth) to create a surreal life. I believe he never did experience passage into adulthood as most of us know it. With the absence of the natural evolution that journey brings, he remained isolated and mostly lived in a world of his own. This is not atypical for very talented and creative individuals…and it can make an existence very lonely.
The search for meaning and purpose in life can be a very painful and lonely even amidst success, fame, and notoriety. I have a lot of compassion for anyone who struggles in their life to find true love, a sense of belonging, or true value for who you really “are” rather than what you bring to the table for someone else. I believe to be truly healthy we have to come to terms with many of these kinds of conflicts and issues. Oftentimes life passes us by before the realizations and resolutions come along. We are fortunate indeed when we have people in lives that not only unconditionally love us and recognize those struggles but also employ courage taking the time and energy (and it can take a tremendous amount of both) to help us through to stable ground. I would have wanted that for Michael Jackson.
Find out more about Michael Jackson by visiting these sites.